My 2 cents of learning
Life isn’t a series of ages, it’s a series of moments. It isn’t about achieving every right thing in the world, it’s about keep moving and keep nourishing what you have. These are my 2 cents of learnings which I want to share with you. Let me know what you feel about it.
/ One may not get what they want in the moment, and trust me it’s okay. It’s alright to feel outrage, baffled, yet in the long run figure out how to embrace it.. Contentment in one’s life only exist with the key to the acceptance.
/ We may think we will get the friends when we do best, be at the best platform and recite the best song. Trust me, during college days and school days, I used to think very similar— I still couldn’t find feeling of home in my friends, because maybe I was prentending to be something else. The moment you let go of the pretentious layer, you will find folks who will love you when you will sob for no reason, spill your coffee, and be like to be around you because it’s you.
/ There is so much of black, white and grey. As a human being we are overwhelmed to be every corner of the world, I think the only way to go about it right is — make sure you don’t hurt anyone along the way.
/ We feel adernaline rush only exist during school/college days, after that it’s all about income and stability. I agree that we all need this but it’s not the only thing which keep us going.It’s the delight in the chai break, a stroll with your companion, one look of your crush, and excitement to accompany companions during end of the week.
/ Every action has consequence. Life is much more complicated than any story book you have ever read. If your consequence is hurting someone, be accountable of your action. If it hurts someone, it hurts! Apologise, understand and try not to repeat it again. Don’t let your action be the reason of someone else tears.
/ Mid 20’s will throw you quarter life crises. I have been there and I understand. Mostly and always, it’s important to step back a little, tap on your shoulder, and be proud of yourself that how far have you come since you have started. We live in such a choas where we forget to appreciate our own little heart, which needs you more than anyone else.
/ There are good days, bad days, gloomy days , boring days and worst days. Some days are better than others, we also like to celebrate it. Some days are worst, and we try resolve it. Sometimes it’s okay to have just worst day where you literally can’t do anything about it. It’s okay not to see sunshine everyday, let it rain sometimes.
/ Sometimes we need to take tough decision for the betterment of ourselves, or others. In the process, one might need to hurt someone, as long as you know you are doing for the right reason, it’s alright. Don’t allow your dream to get shadow by — ‘what he/she would think about it?’. If you have the will to do it, then do it.
/ Friendship is going to be strongest bond you are ever going to create. It will happen only when you are real with your people around you. Understand we create bonds from our hearts, and not mind. Friendship will help you to sail through your good times, and bad times. It will make you laugh when you will be crying, will give you a shoulder when you have forgetten how to ask for help and many more moments. Have right friends, and treasure them.
/ It’s never about the place, it’s always about people. You might not enjoy the walk in Taj when you have no-one around you but walk around Marine Drive with group of people you love, will give a different peace altogether. Success isn’t only about reaching at the top of the world, it’s also about sharing moments with your loved at regular intervals.
/ You see your friends for 20 mins, and you re-believe in magic, relationship, friends, life and what all. Life is magical when you have right people around you. Don’t let yourself fall into prey of ‘cool’ category, when you are actually pretending to become a part of it. It doesn’t stay for long, and you will end up being alone. Just be you, and things/people will follow.
/ Confusion will stay with us today, tomorrow and a day after. A word which we all are carrying along with us since we know this word. At the age of 22 or 26 , confusion never goes away, and it will always stay with you. Problem might change, but one will be surrounded by it. Do things which makes you happy, explore things which you haven’t already because at the end of the day, we regret things which we didn’t try.
/ You will lose people, friends as you grow. You don’t lose people who truly loves you, and one who chose to stay are the ones who loves you.
/ Perfect human is a myth. I remember a dialoge which says, ‘ You don’t get to have perfect partner. You chose a partner for whom you are ready to take fights for.’ Allow yourself to love but don’t look for perfectionisim in anyone.
/ You aren’t busy as you pretend to be. You can always shut down your laptop, and sit with your loved ones. One wouldn’t remember the excel sheet which you have to send to your boss but a series of conversation with your grandparents in sunny winter afternoon. Take some time off.
/ It’s okay not to feel okay.
/ As we grow younger, we are told to restircit ourselves with our moments, conversation, clothing, and what not. Please allow yourself to dance freely, walking down street when it’s raining, taking a dip in ocean, talking to strangers, making new friends, singing like a crazy bad singer, writing heartfelt poems even when it doesn’t even rhyme, and many more. Life isn’t about 9–5 jobs and weekend social gathering, it’s beyond that. Don’t let anything scoop you in one cup.
/ I come from a generation whom I know are more fond of complaining than being grateful. I did that too. Remember, If you have ceiling at the top of your head, food in your fridge every other day, phone to talk to your loved ones, and a bed to sleep, you have a-lot in your life. Be grateful that you have basics, and be grounded.
/ Life isn’t about expensive gifts and luxury hotels. It lies in the moments with tapri wale uncle, society ke bhaiya, first smile of your nephew, friends birthdays, parents anniversary and many more. Life is all about small moments with your loved ones around you.
/ Your journey is yours. Don’t allow yourself to compare with anyone else. You are in this world to create your own path. Let copy paste option be only limted to laptops and Mac.
/ No feeling is final. World may make you or break you. It might bring joy to your plate or sorrow to your table. Do not allow anything to consume you as no feeling is final. Everything will always keep moving.
/ Pause when you are too overwhelemd. Reflect when you are too confused. Reset when you want to take a step back. It’s never about only moving forward, but sometime we need to take a huge swing to take a long jump.
/ Do whatever makes you happy, it always going to be cringy, weird, embarrassing but do it anyway. Because when you will look back, you will thank yourself.
/ It’s difficult to hate someone than to love someone. If you don’t like someone, let them go. Do not allow yourself to be consumed by the feeling of hatred. It’s exhausting and very much tiring.
/ Read. Read. Read. When everything around us becoming so demanding with our attention, it’s important to sit back on your chair and read a book. Give your mind and heart a break from social media scrolling. It’s not worth it.
/ Always leave a room better than before. Always leave people better than you have found them. Art of giving gives you more joy! Try it out.
/ There is no substitute to hard work, loyalty and friends/family.
There are many things which I might have learned but I might not put here due to lack of better words. Learning how to do that better, and with time I will be great at it. Life is a series of different mistakes and beautiful moments. Thankyou for reading.
